Clients often ask me how to incorporate practices like positive affirmations and law of attraction into the work that we are doing together.
There is a quick answer: I don’t.
Say what?
This is such a common thread in spirituality right now that it comes as a surprise to people.
Why wouldn’t you want to just focus on positive things? In a world overflowing with negatives, it is really tempting.
Don't get me wrong, positivity and affirmations may have a role in your healing, but they rarely provide lasting healing when people are ready go really deep with their transformation
And for most people, deep transformation is needed to live your purpose and make the profound impact in the world that is needed to build new systems to replace the ones that are destructive and crumbling.
Think of some practical examples:
⚡️If you cut yourself to the bone, do you tell yourself that everything is fine and focus on the parts of you that aren’t in pain and at risk of infection … or do you seek the medical attention you need to heal the injury cleanly?
⚡️If your house has a crumbling foundation, do you build an addition onto the top floor and repeat affirmations to yourself that your foundation is strong … or do you rebuild your house’s foundation and structural integrity so that it can withstand any storm?
⚡️If a child was beaten and neglected by their parents, would you tell them to focus on the positive … or would you do whatever it takes to help them be and feel safe?
The wrong moves in these scenarios could result in death, structural collapse, and emotional gaslighting and abuse of the child.
So, why would you think that when you have deep spiritual, emotional, and sometimes physical wounds from your childhood, your ancestry, and your social programming, that focusing on or affirming feeling positive in the present will create lasting change?
The practice of Magick and Alchemy involve transforming something into something else 🔥 not ignoring something and focusing on something else that feels better.
And it definitely does not involve telling yourself affirmations that gaslight yourself and your soul when they are calling out to be healed.
Your body keeps score. Your soul keeps score.
In Alchemy we take the Prima Materia, or the junk, pain, and mud of your life, and use it as the fuel for the fires of true transformation.
The long term product is the repair, unity, and wholeness of everything you have experienced, of your body, soul, and spirit.
Nothing is ignored, nothing is rejected, nothing is discarded, nothing is left behind.
Everything is transformed, no matter how dark, painful, shameful, or difficult.
You have to know what you are starting with to make use of your fuel - and that involves acknowledging things as they are and telling yourself the truth, even when it is painful
You have to be willing to acknowledge the pain and suffering that you have experienced and work with the parts of you that are not at all ok.
If your life isn’t working and feeling like you want it to, chances are that you have aspects of you that you are rejecting or pushing away.
If you want to make progress, you have to have the self-worth and courage to break out of your spiritual comfort zone - and move beyond only focusing on where you are positive, upbeat, successful, socially accepted, or feel good.
It is precisely this discomfort zone that contains all the fuel you need to launch your Alchemical journey and shift into a new life of defined by unity, wholeness, and joy.
This isn’t easy, and it definitely isn’t popular, but it is what is needed.
You are 100% worth it and I believe in you 💋
“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.” - Carl Jung
