“I don’t get angry.”
This was an actual statement that I made to a roommate of mine in grad school. His response: “that doesn’t sound very healthy.”
Like a lot of people, I had a really a mixed relationship with my emotions by the time I was in my 20s. I had spent the previous decade trying to be successful and live my purpose - and a real range of emotions didn’t fit into my picture of success. They felt inconvenient, messy, scary, and unsafe.
I did whatever I could to not have to deal with them 🙈🙉🙊 I got really into overworking, quantitative analysis, and spreadsheet programming. I got aggressively good at endurance and adventure sports. I drank heavily. I got stuck in drama loops in romantic relationships. I checked a lot of boxes and found myself less and less happy and fulfilled and it wasn’t clear why.
The challenge for me was that emotions are part of the language of our soul and inner compass 🧭 they are our guidance system for getting in alignment with our higher purpose and self.
The unexpressed energy from rejected emotions gets clogged up in the physical body, the aura, and the soul and shuts down our connection to inner guidance.
What I discovered was that if I wanted to really live my higher purpose and find joy, I was going to need to deal with all my back log and develop a real relationship with my soul.
Not experiencing emotions in real time is like ordering box after box from Amazon and allowing them to stack up at your home without ever opening them.
Over time, things start to get quite cluttered; it becomes a lot less fun to spend time at home and is hard to focus or concentrate on what matters.
When emotional baggage builds up, it clouds our intuition and ability to create new things in life and repeatedly drags us into the same old issues and fears. It infuses everything with stress and anxiety that are difficult to resolve because they aren’t rooted in the present time.
Eventually, if we don't deal with our old emotional junk, we don't have much room to live enjoyably.
When people first work with me, they desire a life of purpose, impact, and connection but that life feels like it’s always a little outside their reach because old patterns, stress, and anxieties keep roping them back in.
The truth is that they already have a beautiful spiritual home ripe with possibility that is often filled with enough unopened emotional junk that they only are familiar with living in a small corner of a single room.
This may be showing up in your life a range of ways like:
✨distractions, mental clutter, and fears blocking your creativity and connection to purpose
✨feeling incomplete and anxious despite outward “successes”
✨missing the sense of purpose and connection you had when you were younger
✨hearing the word "I should" in your mind more than you hear "I want"
✨stress or anxiety that you don't know how to shake despite therapy or meditation
The work we do together gives them the tools and energetic support they need to clean house and clear out the old emotional clutter ☀️so that light can start to pour in and illuminate all of the ways that they are already awesome and amazing.
In the process, they begin to remember the limitless nature of who they truly are and build a life of purpose they want to be in all the time 🔥
